Archive for too stressed
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part 3
Posted by: | CommentsHow To Deal With Overwhelm – Part Three
Mentally change how you look at your schedule
A few weeks ago I had a particularly busy week and the Thursday was a very long day which I was dreading. I was quite tired at the time and even though it was only Monday I was fretting about how I was going to get through the week, especially the Thursday. When you are overwhelmed it is very easy for future events and activities to prey on your mind even though they haven’t happened yet.
In order to make the week feel better instead of thinking of it as a very long and tortuous Monday to Friday I broke it up into two segments: Monday to Wednesday followed by Thursday to Friday. That way the busy Thursday no longer overshadowed the preceding days. When it arrived I got on and dealt with it as best I could and then it was over and done with.
When we are too busy we have to play tricks with our minds to relieve the mental burden of what is on our plate. In doing so we can reduce the stress that it causes which helps us to have enough physical energy to get on and do what has to be done.
Bonus Tip
While the three tips in this blog series will help you to reduce feeling of overwhelm when coping with your workload and juggling of other commitments there are times when may have to ruthlessly offload some of your obligations.
If you don’t have enough time to do the things you want then you have to find a way to stop doing some of the activities that you don’t really care for.
There may also be occasions when you take a complete break from an activity, however dear to your heart it may be, in order to give yourself sufficient time for rest and recuperation. While it is possible to burn the candle at both ends for a while your mental and physical health will suffer if you do it for too long.
When you have been able to take a proper break you will gain fresh perspective on your situation and may well find a more sustainable way of managing your work, family and other projects
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part One
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part Two
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part 2
Posted by: | CommentsHow To Deal With Overwhelm – Part Two
Pretend you only have one thing to do
When there are too many urgent tasks in your day or your week, the thought of them stacking up in from of you can lead to stress and mental paralysis. You can end up getting nothing done or feel too tired and stressed about what lays ahead.
If it is not possible to offload some of these tasks then just pick one that needs doing now (if several need doing now still pick just one of them) and just say to yourself “All I have to do is this.” In doing this you are switching your outlook to one thing that is doable instead of focussing on an overwhelming list.
Whether it takes two minutes, two hours or two days, it is much easier to focus on getting one thing done and completing the task than worrying about everything else. When the first task is done then apply the same technique to the next item on your list – “All I have to do is this”.
Human beings respond better to success than to failure so being able to tick off just one task as completed from your list is better than doing random bits of several activities and never feeling that anything is finished.
You can also use this approach to manage different sections of your day. For example if you have to take the cat to the vet after work and then visit a sick relative you might feel so overwhelmed about what you have to fit into your evening that you are stressing out all day about it. However if you say to yourself “All I have to do is go to work” and then “All I have to do is go to the vet” and then “All I have to do is have a cup of tea with Aunty Mary” you can give your full attention to each of these activities without worrying about what follows.
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part 1
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part 3
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part 1
Posted by: | CommentsHow To Deal With Overwhelm – Part One
Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t
When you are overwhelmed by having too much to do it is easy to get distressed about other activities that you would love to do but just can’t get around to. Maybe you are very busy at work but you would like to spend some time on your own project such doing something creative or finding time for a hobby. Or maybe you have a lot of commitments this week and are panicking about how you will get enough time to exercise or see your family.
When this happens it is easy to focus on and get upset about what you can’t get done. You find yourself thinking or saying stuff like “I’d love to do that but I can’t because I haven’t got time” or “I really wish I could write more this week but I can’t because I haven’t got time”. Instead of getting stuck in the “not enough time = I can’t” pattern it is easier to think of what you can do.
OK, so you might not have enough time to commit to a weekly yoga class but you can do a few minutes of stretching when you get home from work before you start cooking dinner. Although you would love to write up a business plan for your new product ideas your client commitments mean that you can only write out some skeleton points but at least you can complete these in more detail in small chunks of time between appointments.
When you switch to an “I can” mindset from “I can’t” you will start to find little windows of time where you can do quick productive tasks. Even though it may not be as pleasing as having great swathes of time to do your project exactly as you wish, it is better to make progress in small increments albeit at a slower pace rather than get stressed and miserable at what doesn’t seem to be possible.
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part Two
How To Deal With Overwhelm – Part Three
